Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Dance of Life
We should think of marriage as a dance. In this dance both the man and the woman are equal. God, the choreographer, teaches and coaches both dancers so they can show off their own specific qualities. The dance is not about who leads or takes each step, it's about the overall performance. Both dancers want to do well at their role so they come to the choreographer with questions on how they can make their individual parts better so they can , ultimately, make their partner look better. In the end, both dancers have perfected their routine and are able to perform their dance flawlessly.
Monday, September 21, 2009
Love and Lasting Relationships
In today's culture, love means so many different things. One can express love in an intimate way for his spouse in one breath and in another say how he loves football or a cup of coffee. Returning to the original Hebrew translation of love we see that there are three different types of love: eros, philos, and agape. Eros love is erotic love. This is the type of love a man would express to his wife. In Proverbs 5 it is said to be like fire and passion. Within a committed relationship, this is the typical type of love. However, if eros love is shown in other circumstances, that “fire” might crawl out of the fireplace and burn down the entire house! The second type of love is philos love. This type of love is the one that would be expressed about football or coffee. Philos love is a love of companionship and fellowship. An English word that comes from this type of love is Philadelphia-- the city of Brotherly Love. Lastly, Agape love is a selfless, unconditional, one-sided love. In agape love, a person loves with the purpose to simply help the other person without expecting anything in return. One person gives what the other needs the most when they diverse it the least. Agape love enriches and encourages both eras and philos loves. The type of love expressed in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 is what agape love consists of: patience, supernaturalness, kindness, etc. Eros, Philos, and Agape loves are what make up the common “love” that is referred to daily in present day culture.
When someone finds another person of the other sex whom they care deeply about, sometimes it is unclear whether they are in love or just infatuated. The verdict is simple to determine. Love takes time to figure out how how it feels for the other person before making its move while Infatuation explodes out of no where and has to make itself known immediately. Love cares about the other person's feelings and shares its feelings. Infatuation only cares about itself and how it looks. Love devotes all of it's time to one person and can not make room for others. In contrast, Infatuation can care about two or more people at a time without any problem. It is simple to determine whether love is true or simply just infatuation.
The views of love from the perspectives of Hollywood and Christ are extremely different. There are four steps to ensure a lasting relationship. Following God's commands are the first step to keep a lasting relationship. God says to become the “right person,” an imitator of God, mimic God's tenderness, compassion, and forgiveness. Hollywood tells the world to find the right person, fall in love, fix all of your hopes and dreams with the other person, make sure they come through for you, and it things do not work, throw it all away and start the process all over again. God tells us that we have to walk in His love without games, manipulation, or power-plays. We should seek God in our relationships. We need to beg God to make us like Him so we do not see just the holes in the other person's character and what we, as humans, think they should live up to. Hard times are expected and when they happen, simply repeat God's steps one, two, and three. When relationships grow through the bad times, that is when Christ is present.
It is important to remember that God has a special plan for each of his creations and we should not rush into relationships just because there is a flush of emotion. When someone enters into a relationship with another person, he needs to remember to keep God as the focal point. It is important to truly know the other person on various levels. Seeing the other person on a spiritual level is very important. If he or she does not love Jesus Christ, that is immediately a sign to stay away. Knowing the values, lifestyle, and commitment that the other person towards Jesus shows the health of his or her soul. Observing the other person on social setting without pairing off alone lets you have a chance to see how they act and especially treat their family. Knowing the other persons psychological mind lets you see his or her dreams, gifts, and ambitions in life. Understanding the emotions of the other person show the physical commitment of in their life towards things that are important to them as well as what they can give to you. When relationships are followed with God in mind, they work.
*Source: Chip Ingram in his series Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships
When someone finds another person of the other sex whom they care deeply about, sometimes it is unclear whether they are in love or just infatuated. The verdict is simple to determine. Love takes time to figure out how how it feels for the other person before making its move while Infatuation explodes out of no where and has to make itself known immediately. Love cares about the other person's feelings and shares its feelings. Infatuation only cares about itself and how it looks. Love devotes all of it's time to one person and can not make room for others. In contrast, Infatuation can care about two or more people at a time without any problem. It is simple to determine whether love is true or simply just infatuation.
The views of love from the perspectives of Hollywood and Christ are extremely different. There are four steps to ensure a lasting relationship. Following God's commands are the first step to keep a lasting relationship. God says to become the “right person,” an imitator of God, mimic God's tenderness, compassion, and forgiveness. Hollywood tells the world to find the right person, fall in love, fix all of your hopes and dreams with the other person, make sure they come through for you, and it things do not work, throw it all away and start the process all over again. God tells us that we have to walk in His love without games, manipulation, or power-plays. We should seek God in our relationships. We need to beg God to make us like Him so we do not see just the holes in the other person's character and what we, as humans, think they should live up to. Hard times are expected and when they happen, simply repeat God's steps one, two, and three. When relationships grow through the bad times, that is when Christ is present.
It is important to remember that God has a special plan for each of his creations and we should not rush into relationships just because there is a flush of emotion. When someone enters into a relationship with another person, he needs to remember to keep God as the focal point. It is important to truly know the other person on various levels. Seeing the other person on a spiritual level is very important. If he or she does not love Jesus Christ, that is immediately a sign to stay away. Knowing the values, lifestyle, and commitment that the other person towards Jesus shows the health of his or her soul. Observing the other person on social setting without pairing off alone lets you have a chance to see how they act and especially treat their family. Knowing the other persons psychological mind lets you see his or her dreams, gifts, and ambitions in life. Understanding the emotions of the other person show the physical commitment of in their life towards things that are important to them as well as what they can give to you. When relationships are followed with God in mind, they work.
*Source: Chip Ingram in his series Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships
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